A Year of Gifts
Gift of Help
I admit it – I am terrible at asking for help. But I’m finally coming to realize that seeking assistance from others is absolutely vital in living our best lives.
I know I’m stubborn in this area and I’m sure part of it is a control issue. I want to do things myself because I want to feel like I’m in control of the timing of things. It has taken me a long time to recognize this is usually the long road to getting to where I want to go instead of the quickest path.
How about you? Are you good about seeking help from others who know more than you do about an area where you want to improve your life? If this is something you struggle with as well, maybe we can try to get better at this together!
Areas where you might want to seek help:
What are some additional reasons we (at least I) hesitate to ask for help?
An example of where I didn’t initially have the courage to ask for help was with my desire to publish a novel. After spending large amounts of time writing a first draft, the neatly printed manuscript sat hidden in a drawer for far longer than I care to admit because I had no clue what to do with it. I was afraid. Afraid of so many things related to that innocent looking stack of paper.
When we aren’t willing to ask for help, there are risks:
Possible resources to consider for help:
Our worlds are so much larger now because of the internet. I know I’ve mentioned this before but the opportunities this represents for everyone with access to the web is mind boggling. Before computers, we needed to have physical accessibility to someone in order to get their help. Maybe a telephone call was feasible but that has limitations. Now, someone on the other side of the country, or the world, might be able to help.
Personally, when I finally decided it was time to do something with that manuscript sitting in my drawer, I joined Self-Publishing School, an online course designed for this very purpose. I remember feeling elated but sick to my stomach when I signed up online and entered my credit card number. This was by far the largest investment I’d ever made online. Would I regret it? Please understand, this was not a spur of the moment purchase. I’d researched and observed this company for two years before committing. Just like with anything else, it’s on us to do our homework and make sure things are legitimate. Now, a year and a half later, I have no regrets.
It takes courage to ask for help. As I continue on my journey of getting better at seeking help from others, I’ll try to keep these ten things in mind:
I have a challenge for you. Right now, before you do anything else, think about one area of your life where you are less than satisfied with things. Why is this? Do you feel stuck? Do you need encouragement or maybe even someone to help hold you accountable? Why not find that someone today? Nothing like the present! Live that life you truly deserve, Kim
Kim what great advice. Asking for help is very hard if not impossible at times for me. I don't want to bother anyone. I don't want to think there's something I can't do. It's so hard to admit when you need help.
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Hello everyone and welcome to my blog! My name is Kimberly Diede and I'm a fiction author and family girl. When time permits, I am happiest with a great cup of coffee in one hand and a book in the other. I love to alternate between reading and writing. Winters here can be long, dark and cold. Summers are unpredictable, lovely and always too short. Every season of the year, as in every season of life, is a gift. Let's celebrate it together!